326: I love You, But I'm Not In Love With You

Loving someone better starts with loving ourselves better. Self awareness, understanding our childhood and being present are just some of the tools to help ourselves along this path. Listen to today's show to learn how to love ourselves and others better.  In this episode with Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Mohammad we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Internal acceptance and the "I love you test" How to increase your self esteem and self compassion Tests and questions to help unpack the trauma we may have experienced as a child What to do if your partner does not want to do the work to improve the relationship The importance of leaving more space for pleasure in the relationship over performance and perfection  And much more! Sponsored Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exciting Announcement: We're having a FLASH SALE on our online course, Spark My Relationship, ! Learn more and enroll here: SparkMyRelationship.com and use the code FLASH24 at checkout! Available until April 13th at midnight! Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only teaches you the skills needed to create a successful and lasting relationship, but the tools to execute it. In this episode, we interview Dr. Debra Campbell about four important ways to keep the spark alive in our relationship. What Dr. Deb teaches us in this episode is just a glimpse of what is covered in the course. 🙂 Dr. Deb recommends some helpful and practical exercises to help our relationships improve in general happiness and in the bedroom. Here are just a couple of our favorites from the episode: Look at your everyday life with your partner, outside of the bedroom, as foreplay. This allows you to see, from a different perspective, how everything you do and say can help to build up to your next erotic connection with your partner. For example, if you are criticizing your partner during the day, they aren’t going to be easily turned on in the evening. This helps to keep your attention on making your partner feel good and can lead to better sex.  Figure out what turns you on. By finding out what helps you transition into feeling intimate, you can talk to your partner and plan to make your next connection more pleasurable. This could be taking a bath, playing certain music – you could even make a special playlist, or setting your bedroom up with luxurious sheets and good lighting to help you get in the mood.  In this episode we also discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of eliminating unhelpful old habits that can lead to friction and unhappiness Healthy and successful communication tools The biggest struggles couples have when reigniting their sex life, plus tips to spice things up The importance of mindfulness to improve stress management Why having shared dreams and desires can be so beneficial for celebrating our “couple culture” now and in the future. And much more! Dr Debra Campbell is a author, psychologist, university lecturer and couple therapists based in Melbourne Australia. Dr. Debra has consulted on everything from panic to depression, parenting, grief and relationships. Her book Lovelands has become an Amazon bestseller, combining self-help with the deeply personal memoir of a psychologist. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to learn more ways to spark your relationship? If so, you’re not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Episode Links Dr. Debra’s Website Episode 68: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence Lovelands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attachment theory is one of the best ways to understand yourself, your partner and improve your relationship. Listen to today's show for tools you can use to heal your attachment wounds and work toward a more secure relationship.  In this episode with Thais Gibson we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to reprogram yourself through the unconscious mind and heal your attachment wounds How to change the negative stories that we tell ourselves Learning to meet your own needs and feel 'good enough' without our partner's validation Understanding what are realistic and unrealistic expectations How to process feelings in a healthy way if you put a lot of negative meaning into situations And much more! Sponsored Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It might sound a bit too good to be true. Ask better questions and instantly improve your relationship? The quality of our relationships is often determined by the quality of our communication and connection. Asking better questions will help you communicate better and develop a deeper sense of understanding and intimacy with your partner. Listen to today's show to learn how to ask better questions and improve your relationship today! In this episode with Topaz Adizes we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to hold space and be in the emotions together with your partner The art and value of deep listening during conversations Why you should not be asking binary questions to have better conversations Specific questions that you can start asking in your conversations today Important questions to ask yourself for deeper conversations and insights And much more! Sponsored Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. EarnIn empowers millions of people to achieve financial independence worry-free, without debt traps, fees, or credit checks. Download EarnIn today in the Google play or Apple app store. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kelli Miller shares essential advice for tackling common relationship issues. From reigniting feelings of love to navigating differences in desires and managing the impact of social media, Kelli provides practical tips to enhance your relationship. Tune in for actionable insights on compromise and understanding the ebb and flow of emotions, empowering you to strengthen your bond with your partner. In this episode with Kelli Miller we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What to do if you don't feel in love with your partner anymore? Navigating social media and understanding if it's damaging your relationship What to do if you and your partner want different things in your relationship and life Why it's normal to not feel in love all of the time Acting in order to produce the emotional change you desire Amazing tips to help you compromise with your partner more easily And much more! Sponsors Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Osea is your one stop shop for everything related to great quality skincare. Get ahead of your holiday shopping! For a limited time, you can get 10% off with our code "RELATIONSHIPADVICE10" at OseaMalibu.com. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unfortunately, love and relationships don't necessarily come naturally to us. But that's ok! We can gain the tools and strategies to cultivate a life full of love and relationships that are fulfilling and healthy. Listen to today's show for amazing tips to start improving your relationship today.  In this episode with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Tools to understand ourselves so we can better relate with others through the love blueprint Understanding the underlying meaning that we may be attaching to things our partner does Specific tools and questions to get to know yourself and your partner on a deeper level How bilateral stimulation with your eyes can literally widen your perspective and help you navigate conflict How to let go of things when you're triggered or communicate with your partner if needed Practices to cultivate love and compassion in your relationship And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Osea is your one stop shop for everything related to great quality skincare. Get ahead of your holiday shopping! For a limited time, you can get 10% off with our code "RELATIONSHIPADVICE10" at OseaMalibu.com. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we better understand what makes us who we are, we can relate better and have more loving and fulfilling relationships. Listen to today's show to learn more about how our brain chemistry, personality types and evolution make us who we are and influence how we relate to others.  In this episode with Dr. Helen Fisher we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding why we fall in love with specific personality types How sex drive, romantic love and attachment influence our relationships How are hormones influence our personalities and who we are attracted to Why are decision making can be compromised in relationships and how to account for this issue The importance of sometimes overlooking the negative in a relationship And much more! Sponsored Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our relationships are often a product of the quality of our communication. Communication involves much more than just the words we speak. Listen to today's show to learn how to approach and have conversations that will produce more connection and love in your relationship.  In this episode with Dr. Heather Browne we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How communication starts beyond words Important questions to ask yourself before having a conversation Specific steps to ensure your conversation is set up for success How to soothe yourself if communication is not happening or not going how you'd like The importance of accepting your partner and not trying to change them How to create a new belief system and not fall into old patterns Sponsored Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Happy Mammoth is your ultimate solution for Gut Health & Hormone Balance. Unlock a special 15% discount on your entire first order at HappyMammoth.com using promo code “IDO” at checkout. Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Defining something is one of the first steps in understanding and cultivating it. Loving and being loved is a fundamental human need that can bring us amazing highs and unbearable lows. Today's wide ranging and philosophical conversation will help you better understand and cultivate love in your life, negotiate in conflict and live a richer, more meaningful life.  In this episode with Dr. David McMillan we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The factors that contribute to true and meaningful love How to serve the spirit of your relationship Negotiating impasses in your relationship with specific tips and tools you can use right away How to disagree joyfully and validate your partner's opinion The life stages of working toward enlightenment and how these deep insights can help us show up better for ourselves and others And much more! Sponsors Lume Deodorant helps you control your body odor anywhere! Get $5 off of your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code: "I Do" at lumedeodorant.com #lumepod Athena Club is your one stop shop to fulfilling all of your shaving needs. Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We need money to move through the world, but more money doesn't necessarily mean more happiness. Navigating our relationship with money is an important part of life and relationships. We've covered understanding our money personalities in several past shows. Through his own experiences and many interesting conversations, Paul shares what money means to different people and what we can learn from their stories.  In this episode with Paul Ollinger we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How chaos in your life can lead to chaos in your relationships How to find your source of purpose Redefining how you measure success How to chase your dreams even if it seems impossible Debunking the myth that you'll find happiness with just a little more money And much more! Sponsors BetterHelp is an online therapy platform that will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. Start living a happier life today and get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. HoneyLove is the shapewear you need to feel comfortable feeling your best. Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to honeylove.com/IDO! #honeylovepod Pjur is a leading manufacturer of high-quality personal lubricants and intimate wellness products. Pjur is offering our listeners 5% off your order with our code, "IDO"! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices