174 Good Girl Syndrome

It’s been over 4 years of weekly podcasts, and I’m doing something I’ve never done… I’m taking a break! It’s going to be a short break for part of the summer, and when I come back, get ready for some big changes! The name PurposeGirl is going away… The girl is a WOMAN, and the refreshed podcast is going to reflect that! So, if you aren’t already subscribed, please make sure you subscribe so you keep getting the new episodes under the new name! I am SO excited about all the amazing things coming your way when we return!   In the meantime, if you haven’t already, please join the WOMAN Rising Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1695145034048560 And if you haven’t yet joined The Year of WOMAN Membership, get to it! https://carinrockind.com/woman  

In honor of Pride month here in the US, I wanted to bring you a genuine conversation with a number of dear friends of mine about our own discoveries about our places in the LGBTQIA+ universe. We’re having a frank, open discussion about our experiences, our joys, our struggles, and so much more. Regardless of how you (or those in your lives) identify, these issues touch all of us, and I want to help bring greater understanding to my community and to all those whose lives you touch. I’m joined by three amazing guests – not “experts” per se, simply real people: Kelly Mahalak, Cassandra Coghill, and Chivas Sandage – as we dive into: Our own journeys to self-discovery The terms we use to describe ourselves, and the challenges in using these terms Compulsory heterosexuality Coming out is not a one-time thing The privilege and curse of “passing” The many joys in our lives related to our queerness Laughter. Tears. Deep truths. This conversation has it all!!! About Cassandra A. Coghill I am Cassandra A. Coghill, a Relationship Alchemist and Intimacy Guide. I am a healer, a priestess, and a witch. I have a Bachelor's degree in Women and Gender Studies, with a minor in Human Development and Family Science, from North Dakota State University in Fargo, ND. (Go Bison!)  While attending college, I became a certified Reiki Master Practitioner and gave birth to my first child. While pregnant with my second child, I was initiated onto the path of priestesshood at the Goddess Temple of Ashland, Oregon. I am also an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church. A powerful inner call to understand the mysteries of life lead me into the study of metaphysics and the occult from a young age. I have been a practicing solitary white witch for the past 11 years. I have studied the Tarot since 2014 and consult it and other oracles for myself and my clients regularly. I work with the so-called “classical” or “Western” elements of Air, Water, Fire and Earth in nearly everything I do. My love for the so-called “Eastern” traditions runs deep (I’ve studied yoga, tantra, ayurveda, traditional chinese medicine, feng shui and Buddhist philosophy informally but extensively); but, as a person of predominantly British ancestry, the deepest and most powerful magick I bring forth tends to be drawn from ancient, indigenous European traditions, rituals, symbologies and myths. I commune with angels, dance with faeries and sing the songs of my ancestors regularly.” To learn more about and follow Cassandra: infinitegenesis.com/bio-links Facebook.com/Cassandra.coghill.37 Instagram.com/Cassandra.coghill About Chivas Sandage Chivas Sandage teaches women’s writing workshops on Zoom and also works privately as a coach, editor, and consultant. Her workshops and coaching packages support women who want to heal and deepen their relationship with writing, generate new work, revise and edit, complete a project, give public readings, and publish. Chivas is a digital columnist at Ms. Magazine and her debut nonfiction book is forthcoming from the University of Texas Press. She won the 2021 Claire Keyes Poetry Award and is the author of Hidden Drive, a finalist for the Foreword Book of the Year Award in poetry. Her poems and essays have appeared in the Texas Observer, The Rumpus, The Long Now, and Deceleration News, among others. Follow her on Twitter @ChivasSandage. To learn more about and follow Chivas: http://www.csandage.com @ChivasSandage About Kelly Mahalak Kelly Mahalak is an Identity and Embodiment Coach specializing in helping women explore and express their deepest truths as they deconstruct learned beliefs and behaviors and remember how to live as their most authentic self. She is passionate about gathering women to create change in the world through community. She lives in Michigan with her 3 children.  To learn more about and follow Kelly: www.Instagram.com/kellymahalak TikTok @kellymahalak   And if you haven’t yet joined The Year of WOMAN Membership, get to it! https://carinrockind.com/woman

Play comes naturally to most children, but as we get older, playfulness, zest, tends to diminish. We get stuck in responsibilities, or maybe you feel like play is frivolous. But then you also end up feeling unhappy and depressed and play is a way out of it. The power of play can really help us live more enjoyable, fulfilling, and even productive lives. My two guests today, Elaine O’Brien and Andrea Seydel, are not only dear friends of mine, but they just coauthored a book on this, and I am so thrilled to have them share their wisdom with you! Today we’re discussing: Why we lose our sense of play as we get older Why play is so important to our wellbeing Reconnecting to how we like to play Easy ways to bring more play into our lives The value of “micromoments” How we can adopt a play mindset The scientific argument for play Why play is crucial to getting through challenging times About Elaine O’Brien Dr. Elaine O’Brien is one of the most informed academics, theorists, and practitioners on the intersection of positive movement, fitness, vitality, mental and physical health, and zesty aging. Dr. Elaine is one of the first 100 people worldwide to earn a master’s degree in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) under Dr. Martin Seligman in 2008, who recognized her contributions in his book, Flourish. She was a 2022 MAPP Summit Alumni Invited Speaker. Seligman stated that Elaine’s work “advances the role of the body and positive movement in helping people achieve flourishing mental health, physical fitness, and positivity.” Elaine earned her PhD in Human Movement Psychology in her 60s, after decades of leadership in the dance/fitness industry. Elaine is a writer, author, speaker, and host/board member of the International Positive Psychology Association’s Health and Wellbeing division. She recently developed a course, “Positive Psychology Across the Lifespan” for the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine. With Andrea Seydel, Elaine is the co-author of The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potential. This book can safeguard your physical and mental health and make you a better lover of life. To learn more about and follow Elaine: http://Elaineobrienphd.com http://powerofplay.fun https://www.facebook.com/Elaine.OBrien.Fitstyle https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaine-o-brien-phd/  About Andrea Seydel Andrea Seydel a powerhouse of knowledge and growth. With an unwavering passion for education and personal development, Andrea has dedicated her life to continuous learning. Armed with a psychology degree and post-graduate studies in positive psychology and resilience training, Andrea is an accredited positive psychology coach and a respected figure in the fitness and yoga community. Her expertise extends to non-violent communication, neuro-linguistic programming, post-traumatic growth, mental health first aid, and more. Driven by a profound mission, Andrea empowers individuals to navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace. Through her best-selling book, "Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction," influential podcast, and Support Community, she has touched countless lives, offering guidance and support. As a regular contributor to Recovery Today magazine and an active advocate for the recovery community, Andrea is a transformative force, helping individuals turn their pain into purpose. Through her company, Live Life Happy Publishing, Andrea creates a haven for book lovers and aspiring authors. Affectionately known as "The Book Doula," she nurtures coaches, psychology experts, and entrepreneurs in the process of giving birth to their literary creations. By bridging the gap between aspiring authors and knowledge-seeking individuals, Andrea harnesses the power of books to change lives and make a positive difference in the world. When she's not immersed in her book reading, Andrea can be found hiking trails, practicing yoga, or exploring the world. To learn more about and follow Andrea: www.livelifehappypublishing.com www.andreaseydel.com And if you haven’t yet joined The Year of WOMAN Membership, get to it! https://carinrockind.com/woman We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Today I’m dropping the first in a new series, called Ways of WOMAN, or WOW! These are bite-sized, supremely actionable tools for you to use to live as the powerful woman you were born to be. Join me as I talk all about: The two little words that hold so many women back The trauma of the powerful woman Positive What-If-ing Negativity bias I know you're going to love this new series! Please send us a note at [email protected] and let us know what you think! And make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss a single WOW! We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review!

I grew up the grandchild of Holocaust survivors. My grandparents fled Europe and came to the United States with nothing, and their experiences understandably left them with concerns about money and scarcity. Some of this rubbed off on me, along with my own experiences growing up around people who had far more money than I did (not that I wanted for anything). And as a result, I ended up with my own set of issues around money. Today’s episode is a bit of a departure for me, since I rarely focus on money, but that’s what we’re diving into today. Join me as I talk all about: Power leaks around money Conscious women with money are going to save this world Why I want more money... And what is YOUR secret desire for money? Our own money stories Changing “I can’t” statements to… The intersection of science and The Law of Attraction The six steps to changing your relationship with money To learn more about my new class, MONEY Magic, go to: https://carinrockind.com/moneymagic To learn more about and join The Year of WOMAN Membership, go to: https://carinrockind.com/woman We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!  

You ever have that feeling that you should be happier than you are? Maybe you think that in general, things are going pretty OK in your life, and for sure a lot of people have it worse than you do, and yet you feel like you should be happier? You wonder what’s wrong with you? I’ll out myself and say that yes, I’ve been there many times in my life. If this at all resonates for you, then I’ve got the best guest for you! Today I’m sitting down with Dominique Velasquez to talk about: The guilt that comes from feeling that you have no good reason to be anxious or unhappy The search for external validation Her struggles with opioids Her amazing recovery (and how my podcast helped!!! – I am so grateful to know this!!!) Her key understanding that the problem is not the circumstance in which we find ourselves, it’s… (you’ll have to listen to hear the rest!) The devastating effect of shame How the tools that Dominique has developed help other women to feel fulfilled and whole inside Dominique’s PIVOTT program About Dominique Velasquez I spent my life trying to prove my worth by achieving things. However, there was no achievement big enough to fill the hole I had in my heart. I kept feeling empty like something was missing, and I just could not figure out why. I’d smile and put on a happy face to the world, but internally I was dying. In 2010 I got diagnosed with endometriosis, & quickly found myself fully addicted to opiates in desperation to numb the pain. At that time in my life, I looked to have it all, but I felt empty & unfulfilled! Constantly thinking “What is wrong with me?” I was dripping in shame from living a double life, pretending to be fine. The shame of being found out stopped me from seeking the treatment that I desperately wanted. I truly believed that my worth came from outside of me. Then I discovered self-development, and my life took a 180-degree pivot. I quickly learned that everything I needed was inside me and that I am the creator of my life. My purpose is to guide women in discovering that everything they need is inside them. To learn more about and follow Dominique: www.uniquepivott.com https://instagram.com/uniquepivot https://www.facebook.com/UniquePivott For info on her upcoming retreat, The PIVOTT Experience, please go to: www.uniquepivott.com/pivott-experience And if you haven’t yet joined The Year of WOMAN Membership, get to it! https://carinrockind.com/woman We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

I didn’t build my business on social media - I built it by speaking on stages. My big dream was to be impactful like Oprah, and though I had no mentor, I figured it out. I spoke at AVON and for Victoria’s Secret execs. For Capital One and at Women’s conferences.  I LOVED IT! I made an impact, I made money, AND, nearly every time I spoke, I got clients! But then… I kept seeing all of these other coaches making $1 Million in 6 months! I felt so inadequate. Ads started screaming at me on Facebook: Get 10,000 followers! Get my cash coach system! My brain start obsessing about social media posts and (ugh -) Likes. I felt like a loser and even though my business did “well” I felt rotten. When companies shut down during the pandemic, speaking was off the table - So I hired an expensive coach who got me to raise my prices. It was fun and I was successful, but I was still anxious. My mind dreaded the social media hustle. I felt bored of all the coaching. And empty. I got into this to teach Happiness, but I was unhappy. So I hit the RESET button. I looked deep within and remembered: Carin - you’re here to move the masses. I did not get into this to coach a few. I did not get into this to obsessively feel defeated against algorithms.  I did not get into this to SELL! SELL! SELL! I’m here for massive impact. I’m here to start a Revolution. Can you relate? Does this resonate? If so, then stick around, because this episode is the audio from my VISIONARY MasterClass, in which I spilled the beans on: How I created a REVOLUTIONARY MOVEMENT. How I created a paid speaking biz What I’ve learned so you do it better In the VISIONARY Masterclass, you'll learn: The #1 Thing Killing Women Entrepreneurs’ Spirits and Ability to Impact My 4 Step ROCKSTAR Plan The EXACT steps I took to speak to tens of thousands of people, to be on national radio, and to have a podcast in the top 20 for mental health in 30+ countries How to create a business that is full of EASE, is FUN, and FLOWS clients to you You will walk away feeling EXCITED about your work again, HOPEFUL about possibilities, and READY with a plan of ACTION to ROCK your MISSION!!! And at the end of this Masterclass I invite participants to join me in my brand new ROCKSTAR Mentorship, which you can learn about here: https://carinrockind.com/rockstar Early Bird Discount for ROCKSTAR ends April 27, so get on it! We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

After I divorced years ago, I had a series of relationships over a number of years, some for a short time and some that lasted a while, but for too much of that time I wasn’t really clear on what I wanted out of these relationships, let alone how to go about getting it. Looking back on it now, I wish I had had someone in my life like today’s guest to help me navigate all of this. Today we’re talking with Jamie Simkins, expert in all things dating, relationships, love and sex, and it is SUCH a fabulous, juicy conversation! Join us as we talk all about: Some of the common struggles so many women have in relationships and dating Why it matters that our brain confuses what is familiar with love Why women often “overfunction” in their relationships The challenges of getting back together after a break-up (70% don’t make it!) Regarding the pain of break-ups, it’s not that time heals all wounds, it’s that…. (You’re gonna have to listen to hear the rest of this one!) Why the break-up brain is an addicted brain How to manage a break-up in a healthy, healing way How to strengthen your current relationship About Jamie Simkins Jamie is a licensed therapist based in Chicago and an international coach who helps women to stop feeling lonely and start getting the love they crave. Jamie’s work centers on the full life-cycle of romantic love from navigating dating, to strengthening relationships, to healing from breakups. To learn more about and follow Jamie: HemispheresCounseling.com MyBreakupCoaching.com https://www.instagram.com/hemispheres_counseling We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

I recently got back from leading my Wild Woman Retreat in Puerto Rico, and I’m just gonna own it… It was AMAZING! I really do lead the best women’s retreats! Together we embraced the wild parts of ourselves, those parts that the patriarchy tries to suppress because our raw power threatens and scares them. Because uncovering and embracing these deeper parts of ourselves is critical to our own happiness. I’m on the verge of a major transformation right now, one in which I’m moving away from PurposeGirl and moving towards something bigger and bolder: Teaching women to be wise, wild women! My business is evolving, and it’s scary, and it’s also thrilling! If you’re like so many women I support, you have dreams that you’ve been dreaming for years, but you’ve been held back from pursuing them by any number of fears. Well sister, the fire within you is meant to be stoked, not stamped! Join me as I talk all about: Moving from watching the thing you desire to doing the thing you desire Paying attention to your “desire fire” Doing your “joy juice” research The stress response common to women The importance of support and connection How to soothe yourself when fear arises Accurate thinking vs. thinking traps How I can help you realize your dreams To learn more about and join The Year of WOMAN Membership, go to: https://carinrockind.com/woman We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!

If you’re listening to my podcast, you know that I am all about women -- uplifting, educating, empowering, inspiring, and bringing together women. And yet it was only a few years ago that I learned about International Women’s Day! It’s such a shame that this day, now one of my favorite days each year, isn’t more widely celebrated. Well, I’m doing my part to change that, because today’s episode is all about the ways you can celebrate and honor International Women’s Day and women’s history! Join me as I talk all about: Practices for you to honor yourself as a woman Changing your thoughts to change your life The number one thing leading to women’s depression Several easy actions you can take right now to support other women, and why it’s so important that you do! How to participate in WOMANFEST, happening on March 10, 2023! I invite you to join and support WOMANFEST, and help spread the word! https://carinrockind.com/womanfest To learn more about and join The Year of WOMAN Membership, go to: https://carinrockind.com/woman And I am now on TikTok, so please follow me there! On TikTok I’m The Woman Whisperer -- I explain why in this episode! We’re changing the world one woman at a time. Go to Apple Podcasts and leave a 5-star review and subscribe so you never miss an episode!