Why Modern Love is Harder Than Ever

Black men are dying of cancer in silence. So we took a room full of dads, sons and survivors and built the most honest conversation they’ve ever had.This episode was recorded at Macmillan’s Open House, a home built to feel like the houses that raised us: soft light, old portraits, kettle on the stove, carpet holding the memories of every step. Into that house we brought a live conversation on men, fatherhood and grief.Marvyn Harrison is joined by:– Ibrahim Kamara, whose dad died of cancer on his birthday while he was locked alone in a Covid hotel– Paul Campbell, who was denied treatment, diagnosed in the same year as his brother and sister, and watched his father die from prostate cancer– Host and facilitator Ruben Christian, unpacking identity, masculinity and the cost of being “the strong one”Inside this episode:– The Black dad who had to fight his GP just to get tested– Why three siblings were all diagnosed with cancer in the same year– How a father hid his diagnosis from ten children and made one son carry the secret alone– Men explaining what grief actually feels like inside the body– The quiet ways race, culture and masculinity shape how we ignore symptoms– What good men actually need from their partners, friends and community– Why checkups aren’t a verdict, they’re a lifeline and a second chanceThe episode closes with “White Smiles”, an original song written about a dream of a father who finally returns smiling, with new teeth and no pain. Listen grounded, eyes closed if you can.If you love a Black man, live with one, are raising one or are one, this is the episode you send. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when your father’s shadow is your biggest opponent? Marvyn Harrison breaks down Benn vs Eubank II — the fight that wasn’t just about punches, but parenting, legacy, and identity. From Nigel Benn and Chris Eubank Sr.’s 90s rivalry to their sons’ clash under the lights, this is a story about how fathers shape sons — and how sons fight to become men in their own right. Featuring deep analysis, emotional reflection, and a generational lens only Dope Black Dads could deliver.boxing, benn vs eubank, conor benn, chris eubank jr, boxing legacy, fatherhood, generational trauma, dope black dads, masculinity, fight review, redemption, british boxing, family rivalry, legacy, marvyn harrison, eubank trilogy, parenting lessons from boxing#DopeBlackDads #BennVsEubank #BoxingLegacy #Fatherhood #Masculinity #BritishBoxing #MarvynHarrison #EubankJr #ConorBenn #LegacyFight Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of the Dope Black Dads podcast, Marvyn breaks down what it really takes to support a good man in 2025, without shrinking yourself or cosplaying a “good little wife.” He covers: • The truth about “something happening with men” — and why it’s about to go one of two ways• The viral Chanté Joseph article about women feeling ashamed to say “I have a boyfriend,” and what that reveals about how men are valued• Why humiliation content (fake throw-up pranks, mocking your man online) destroys respect and never builds the man you actually want• Misogyny vs misandry: why they’re not mirror images and why that distinction matters here• How you speak to your man: nagging vs affirmation, and why rants don’t land but clear, short statements do• The “tennis vs American football” mistake when men share feelings, and how to catch the emotional ball instead of smashing it back• What to do when he goes silent or withdrawn and you suspect more than “he’s just fine”• How to investigate his mood without the dead-end question “You alright?”• Respecting his pace of change instead of treating him like a broken service provider you ordered from an app• Why not every mood change is cheating: money, parents, pressure, identity, and all the other stress signals you keep missing• Turning the home into neutral ground so he doesn’t sit in the car dreading walking through the front door• The “driveway rule”: negotiating how much decompression time he needs and what you need once he comes in• Why there’s no serious “transition programme” for men moving from work-only identity into work + family, unlike the decades of systems put around women at work• How political and economic systems still profit from overworked, emotionally absent men, and what that means for your relationship• The truth: if your man is genuinely bad for you, you should leave; this episode is for people with a good man who’s struggling• The tactic almost nobody uses: sitting in silence, breaking the touch barrier, and offering safety instead of demanding it from a depleted man Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recorded in the middle of the night, Marvyn breaks down how New York elected its first Muslim, South Asian, democratic socialist mayor under Donald Trump, why California quietly rewired Congress with one ballot measure, and how Virginia and New Jersey just told the rest of America where voters actually stand. This is not a vibes recap. It’s a live autopsy on power, maps, money and hope. Full show noteTonight’s Dope Black Desk is not from Westminster or City Hall. Emotionally, it’s in New York, California, Virginia and New Jersey at the same time. Marvyn walks through the election results that look “local” on paper but actually redraw the global map of power in a Trump era. In this episode, he breaks down: • New York City electing Zoran Mamdani — 34-year-old democratic socialist, first Muslim and South Asian mayor, ex–housing counsellor, in the financial capital of the world• How Mamdani beat a disgraced former governor and a Republican talk-radio veteran, with Trump backing Cuomo instead of his own party’s candidate• Mamdani’s four “impossible” promises: free citywide buses, universal childcare, rent freezes, and city-run grocery stores in food deserts• Why bodegas, Yemeni owners, unions, taxi drivers, immigrants and young voters formed a single coalition and toppled an old political dynasty• Trump’s threats to punish New York and brand Mamdani a “communist”, and why that bluff could push him into full-blown war-crime territory if he actually follows through• The donor class, pro-Israel money, Gaza, genocide language and why this mayoral race became a referendum on who really owns American politics• How the middle class has been swapped out for racial hierarchy and why that model is breaking down in real timeThen Marvyn zooms out: • California’s Prop 50: a mid-decade redistricting move designed to cancel out Texas’s GOP map and hand Democrats up to five extra House seats• Why this is an “arms race on maps not manifestos” and how one technical vote can decide who controls Congress in 2026• Gerrymandering, the Supreme Court, state courts, and why Democrats finally stopped pretending they were “above” playing the same power gameHe finishes with the governor races: • Virginia: Abigail Spanberger, ex-CIA, becomes the state’s first woman governor by running on anti-chaos, cost of living and competence• New Jersey: Mikie Sherrill, Navy helicopter pilot and former prosecutor, wins on affordability, child tax credits and abortion protection• Why voters in ex-red states are choosing stability over Trump-style chaos, even when Republicans put forward barrier-breaking candidates• How all of this connects back to London, food deserts, mini-mart markups, and a UK political class turning every square metre of life into a productUnderneath the US headlines, this is an episode about: • Who draws the map• Who pays the price• And whether any of this can still translate into a city or a country you can afford to raise a family in Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I opened my ChatGPT vault and read the last five things I asked it: the best loose-leaf tea on earth, a high-leverage sales plan, a global parenting pivot, the truth behind “quotas” in ads, and the Antwone Fisher poem that hits like a freight train. Momentum storytelling. Zero fluff. High signal. Project 1Show notes (long, with skim-fast formatting)• Why your teabag tastes mid, and the five loose-leaf brands worth real money• Designing a killer partnerships engine in public• Upgrading Dope Black Dads into a global parenting community without changing the name• Are “quotas” in advertising real or a culture-war decoy? Data and context• “Who Will Cry for the Little Boy?” and the cost of growing up without a blueprint• What it takes for Black men to make it to 60 with purpose and healthReferenced from the live ramble captured in this episode.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on the Dope Black Dads podcast, we dive into a powerful and timely story. Victoria Beckham has revealed in her new Netflix documentary that her eating disorder made her “good at lying” A raw admission that sheds light on a condition too often hidden in silence.Beyond the celebrity headline, this conversation is about what it means for our families, our children, and our communities. Eating disorders are not about vanity; they’re serious medical and mental health conditions that can affect any child, regardless of background.In this episode, we explore:Victoria’s experience of secrecy, shame, and resilienceHow eating disorders impact self-esteem, family life, and identityThe signs parents and carers should look out for in children and teensWhat to do if you suspect your child is strugglingWhy open, honest conversations at home can break the cycle of silenceFor Black families especially, where mental health challenges often go undiscussed, this is an opportunity to create safe spaces for truth and healing. Our children deserve to feel loved, respected, and supported in every part of who they are.If this episode raises concerns for you, please seek support: in the UK, Beat Eating Disorders offers free, confidential advice at beateatingdisorders.org.uk. And remember no parent is alone in this journey.Join us as we use Victoria Beckham’s story as a springboard to talk about how we can show up better for our children, our communities, and ourselves. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For decades, families of the 97 Hillsborough victims were denied honesty and justice. Public officials lied, delayed, and covered up. Now, the long-awaited Hillsborough Law, formally the Public Office Accountability Bill, introduces a legal duty of candour, forcing officials to tell the truth during major disaster investigations, with criminal penalties if they don’t.In this episode, Marvyn Harrison breaks down why this law matters far beyond football. From Grenfell survivors to Post Office workers, from Black families in police custody cases to maternity wards, cover-ups cost lives, trust, and justice.This is about:Truth as protection for families.Ending decades of lies and silence.Rebuilding trust in institutions.Justice for communities failed by the state.Setting a global example of truth as law.Truth, justice, and accountability aren’t optional. They’re non-negotiable. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Back in the 1930s, love was about survival—one person brought money, the other ran the home. By the 1990s, polarity and attraction became the focus. But in 2025? That’s not enough. Today, real connection needs three things: survival, desire, and alignment.In this episode, Marvyn Harrison explores how blurred gender roles, economic independence, and new expectations around emotional intelligence have reshaped what it takes to build lasting relationships. He asks the tough questions:Can you survive together?Do you still desire each other?Are you truly aligned in values, money, health, parenting, and vision?If you’ve managed all three, you’re not just lucky—you’re rare. Listen in to rethink love, dating, and marriage in a modern world where commitment is harder, but also deeper. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Launching this Father’s Day, Not Just a Day, A Legacy is a deeply personal and culturally relevant essay series and visual campaign from Marvyn Harrison — founder of Dope Black Dads. Through intimate letters, storytelling, and healing guidance, the campaign invites fathers, children, and communities to reflect, reconnect, and reimagine legacy beyond absence. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When my son was born, I thought I had to choose between staying home to give him everything or going back to work and risking missing the moments that matter. But the truth is, you don’t have to choose. From September, eligible working parents of children aged 9 months up to school age could get up to 30 hours of funded childcare a week, over 38 weeks a year — worth up to £7,500 in savings. That’s not just money back; it’s time to work, breathe, build, and still be present for your child. Apply by 31 August.Check your eligibility at childcarechoices.gov.uk#ChildcareChoices @educationgovuk #ad Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.