The 4 Types of People You Meet in Life & How to Handle The Way They Treat You

Who in your life challenges you the most? Who sees more potential in you than you do? Today, Jay unpacks the powerful idea that everyone we meet serves a distinct purpose in our lives, acting as mirrors, windows, or doors. Inspired by a concept shared by TikTok creators Kim Peretz and Stale Hope, Jay talks about how different people reflect our flaws, show us glimpses of our potential, and open new pathways to growth. Jay explores the idea that some people mirror back our darkest and most uncomfortable traits, offering us valuable opportunities for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the challenge of accepting lessons from those we may not want to listen to, reminding us that the message is often more important than the messenger. He introduces the concept of doors and keys—those who open paths and unlock parts of ourselves in the most perfect way. He discusses the importance of gratitude and recognizing the people who have helped us move forward, even if we may have forgotten them. In this episode, you'll learn: How to accept difficult truths about yourself How to recognize the people who reflect your potential How to stay open to advice even when it’s hard to hear How to appreciate the role others play in your personal journey How to stay curious about what others see in you As you navigate your journey, remember that every person you encounter has something to teach you, whether they act as a mirror, window, door, or key. You're not alone on this path. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 The Mirror, Window, and Door of Our Life 03:12 People Mirror Back to Us Our Flaws 11:14 People Are Like Windows, They See More Potential in You 18:07 Some People Open a Door or Path for Us 19:33 Some People Are Keys, They Unlock Parts for UsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you usually handle stress in your life? Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers. Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today. Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily “good morning” text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build Predictability in Relationships How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain How to Build Trust Through Consistency How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connection—and in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:06 Safety and Acceptance 19:12 Healthy Friendships 29:39 Predictability 38:15 Breathing Protocol 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism 01:24:54 You Can’t Control Everything 01:34:29 The Human Narrative 01:43:15 Be Yourself  Episode Resources: Andrew Huberman | Website Andrew Huberman | Instagram Andrew Huberman | Facebook Andrew Huberman | TikTok Andrew Huberman | YouTube  Andrew Huberman | LinkedIn Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately? Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating? Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating. It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey. Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success.  In this episode you'll learn: How to Overcome Dating Burnout How to Spot Red Flags Early How to Build Resilience in Dating How to Align with Your Core Values How to Reframe Rejection Positively By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout? 05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience 08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication 11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See 13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way 18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time 22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating? 23:54 3 Strategies to Successful DatingSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would you tell your 14-year-old self? How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice? Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world. Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings. Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures How to Align Your Career with Personal Values How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? 10:54 Love What You’re Doing 18:59 Stuck in Life 22:06 Trust the Process 26:04 Patience 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? 35:57 Raise a Reader 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? 45:00 General Parenting Tip 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love 58:50 Do What’s Important to You 01:02:04 What is at Stake? 01:06:03 Comparison Game 01:09:36 Dad Guilt 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent 01:19:11 This Stops with Me      Episode Resources: Ryan Holiday | Website Ryan Holiday | Instagram Ryan Holiday | Facebook Ryan Holiday | TikTok Ryan Holiday | YouTube  Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip? What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone? Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life.  Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Expand Your Worldview  How to Boost Self-Reliance How to Connect with New People and Cultures How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip? 04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself 11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence 13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview  16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance 19:49 #5: Master Your Mind 21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction 23:09 #7: Vigilance 24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse PeopleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What are your emotional needs? How do you communicate them clearly? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically. Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships. Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships. In this interview, you'll learn: How to recognize trauma bonds How to break the cycle of reactivity How to set healthy boundaries How to cultivate self-awareness How to develop emotional resilience How to foster a growth mindset in relationships Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:44 You Create Change 06:58 Toxic Family Members 11:21 Change is Voluntary 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships 22:58 The Unmet Needs 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? 41:55 Panic Attack 48:54 Chronic Illness 53:54 Countering Beliefs 57:17 Physiological Shifts 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity 01:06:24 Inner Child Work 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically Episode Resources: Nicole LePera | Website Nicole LePera | Instagram Nicole LePera | Facebook Nicole LePera | TikTok Nicole LePera | YouTube  Nicole LePera | LinkedIn How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships Special thanks to https://kajabi.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What lessons have you learned from your past 12 months? How have your goals evolved over the past months? Today, Jay reflects on the 12 key lessons he has learned over the past year. He begins by discussing the idea that the seeds we plant—our actions and intentions—manifest as either flowers or weeds, the importance of pursuing meaningful actions for personal fulfillment rather than external validation, and how to distinguish between setting goals and choosing growth, underscoring that genuine progress requires a commitment to personal development rather than simply aiming for outcomes. The episode highlights the importance of protecting one's purpose from external distractions and maintaining a clear focus on one's path, the challenges we face as opportunities to grow into who we're meant to be, and the concept of defining experiences proactively to shape our own narratives rather than letting circumstances dictate our identities. In this episode, you'll learn: How to handle envy with love How to act for fulfillment, not praise How to focus on growth, not just goals How to guard your purpose from distractions How to use challenges to evolve How to stay open to unexpected help Stay open to the unexpected, protect your passions, and choose growth over comfort. By doing so, you not only transform your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 Lessons Learned in the Past 12 Months 03:50 #1: The seeds you planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today. 07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life. 10:27 #3: People forget things quickly, do the right thing and what's meaningful to you. 13:06 #4: Everyone sets goals, not everyone chooses growth. 15:00 #5: Don't let anyone deter you from your purpose. 16:45 #6: Your challenge is designed for you to become who you're meant to become. 18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first. 19:35 #8: Help can come from unlikely sources in unlikely ways. 21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment.  24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof. 25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do. 26:35 #12 Love is not enough.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you struggling to overcome your past trauma? Are you looking for ways to heal from it? Today, Jay sits down with renowned reggaeton artist and songwriter Nicky Jam. Nicky's music career took off after a series of successful mixtapes and collaborations with other artists, including Daddy Yankee, with whom he formed the iconic duo Los Cangris. His work has earned him international fame and multiple awards, establishing him as a major influence in the reggaeton and Latin trap genres.  Nicky recounts his first foray into music, packing groceries and freestyling at a supermarket, which inadvertently launched his career despite his young age and the informal nature of his work. He opens up about the difficulties of his upbringing, including his mother’s struggle with substance abuse and prostitution, shaping his understanding of normalcy and family life. This background set the stage for his initial break into the music industry, where early rejections and setbacks paved the way for his eventual success in the Puerto Rican mixtape scene and beyond. Together with Jay, Nicky also discusses the challenges of maintaining authenticity and personal happiness amidst fame, expressing discomfort with being seen as a role model and emphasizing the importance of understanding and support for mental health, especially for men in the public eye. Despite ongoing struggles with PTSD, anxiety, and the scars of his traumatic past, Nicky remains hopeful and driven, looking forward to continuing his career and making a positive impact through his work and personal experiences. In this interview, you'll learn: How to handle early setbacks How to deal with the pressure of expectations How to use personal struggles as a source of strength How to maintain creativity under pressure How to find redemption through new opportunities How to help others through your work Nicky's story demonstrates that with unwavering determination and a genuine approach, it's possible to transform challenging beginnings into legacies of success and enduring influence. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:12 Earliest Childhood Memory 04:06 First Deal 06:44 I Was Happy with the Album 08:15 Life on the Streets 12:06 There’s a Different World Out There 15:22 Looking for Billy 17:20 Simpler or Complicated Life? 19:05 Commands Don’t Work on Me 24:58 Battling Alcohol Addiction 31:06 Drug and Alcohol Problem 34:20 Finding Help 36:40 Feeling Alone 39:18 Almost Dying 42:52 Prison Life 45:59 Moving to Columbia 52:00 My Mom is Different 54:48 Do You Pray a Lot? 58:01 Reconciliation 59:49 Forgiveness 01:05:31 I’m not Retiring 01:09:24 My Album is My Story 01:10:11 Some Misunderstanding People Have 01:12:37 Surgery and Recovery 01:13:46 Talking is Therapy 01:15:12 Nicky on Fast Five Episode Resources: Nicky Jam | Website Nicky Jam | Instagram Nicky Jam | Facebook Nicky Jam | TikTok Nicky Jam | YouTube Dubbed by ElevenLabs and this link: https://elevenlabs.io/jay_shettySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel unproductive? How can you boost your daily productivity? Today, Jay talks about how to become productive without feeling burned out. In a world where productivity often leads to burnout, Jay offers practical and transformative strategies to help you achieve more while reducing stress. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list or struggling to manage your time effectively, this episode provides the tools you need to reclaim your focus and energy.  Jay shares the importance of creating a workspace that fuels productivity and how subtle changes, like scent and sound, can enhance your environment. He also highlights the significance of workplace trust and how identifying whether an issue is people- or system-related can save you time and energy. He wraps up with insights on "monk mode," a method to achieve deep focus in the midst of distractions, and encourages listeners to experiment with these principles to find what works best for them.. In this episode, you'll learn: How to focus on one task at a time for better productivity How to identify key drivers of success  How to lean into your momentum for maximum output How to use a 'to start' list instead of a to-do list Tune in to discover how to be productive without compromising your well-being, and walk away with actionable tips that you can implement immediately.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 Burnt Out Already? 04:03 Tip #1: Doing One Thing at a Time 10:10 Tip #2: Clean Your External Space 12:40 Tip #3: Create a To-Start-List 14:17 Tip #4: Give Yourself Positive Validation of Task Completion 18:51 Tip #5: No Email Until 10AM 19:47 Tip #6: Goal of the Day, Goal of the Week 22:03 Tip #7: Know When is Your Most Productive Time 23:41 Tip #8: Create a Space of Workplace Trust 26:21 Tip #9: Focus on What’s Causing Success or Failure 27:42 Tip #10: Lock Into Your TaskSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What's a simple negotiation trick you can try today? How can you get better at persuading others? Today, Jay welcomes former FBI lead international kidnapping negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference", Chris Voss. He is renowned for his innovative negotiation strategies that emphasize empathy, emotional intelligence, and tactical communication. After retiring from the FBI, Voss founded The Black Swan Group, a consultancy firm that provides negotiation training for businesses and individuals. He is also a popular speaker and has taught negotiation at various business schools. Chris discusses his journey from being on a SWAT team to becoming a lead FBI negotiator. He shares that his career path changed after a knee injury and his growing interest in crisis response led him to hostage negotiation where he found the work more satisfying than his previous roles, emphasizing the importance of decisive action in crises. Chris and Jay discuss how human beings are naturally wired to be negative as a survival mechanism, which impacts negotiations. He reframes negotiation as a collaborative process rather than a confrontational one and suggests that effective negotiation often goes unnoticed because it looks like seamless collaboration. They also talk about gender dynamics in negotiation, with Voss providing advice on how women can better negotiate in environments where they might be undervalued.   In this interview, you'll learn: How to calm tense talks How to negotiate with narcissists How to disarm aggression How to foster collaboration How to build rapport In any situation, effective negotiation is not about winning at all costs but about creating a shared path forward that benefits everyone involved.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 Becoming a Lead Negotiator 04:08 Suicide Hotline Conversations 08:03 Labeling the Negative Emotions 09:35 Negotiation Isn’t a Form of Conflict 14:59 How to Get Someone to Collaborate with You? 21:15 How Do You Slow Down? 25:10 How Do You Prepare for a Negotiation? 29:54 Biggest Negotiation Mistakes 31:42 Always Look for the Patterns 40:20 Used and Taken Advantage Of 44:21 The Illusion of Control 46:17 What’s Your Intention? 48:37 How to Negotiate a Better Salary? 50:49 Reward Strategy in the Workplace 53:33 Negotiating Unfulfilled Salary Raise  58:57 How Can Women Negotiate Better? 01:00:57 Negotiations That Don’t End with a Deal 01:05:03 Work with the ELFs 01:11:05 Polite Boundary Setting 01:16:29 How to Not Be Emotional When Negotiating 01:22:08 Are You in the Right Relationship? 01:25:55 Respecting Other People’s Values 01:30:52 Tactical Empathy Documentary 01:34:01 Chris on Final Five Episode Resources: Chris Voss | Website Chris Voss | Instagram Chris Voss | LinkedIn Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.