Ep 151: 10 Questions for Starting Over

Introducing a new series of the podcast called ONE THING where I host conversations with interesting people and ask the ONE THING they would tell you. I'm kicking the series off with my friend Amy B. Harris. Amy has been a producer, writer, and show runner on some of the most iconic shows of our lifetime. Her credits include Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, The Comeback, The Carrie Diaries, The Wilds, and more. She's also a mom raising her daughter in Hollywood, which is how we met and became friends. My conversation with Amy is packed with wisdom and insight, along with her behind-the-scenes perspective on helping to create entertainment that shifts the culture. Follow Amy Harris on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 200: What's the ONE thing you would tell? Childhood, Boyhood, and Youth by Leo Tolstoy The Devil's Candy by Julie Salamon   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotions like anger, fear, and anxiety are often rooted in a feeling of helplessness. These feelings may or may not be tied to facts that are hard to ignore or release, or they be feelings that are holding us back from walking down our best path. But today we're asking: What feels out of control? - Follow me @laura.tremaine Follow the show @10ThingsToTellYou Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe it was a weird conversation or an offhand remark or a comment on a social media post, but whatever happened, you're spinning out. This circumstance has tapped into all of your securities and now you're filled with self-doubt or anger or unworthiness. How do you recenter yourself? I'm going to share 5 ways I've learned to quiet my mind amid chaos and guess what - I am NOT recommending journaling or meditation. I love both of those things (and they can be helpful), but I want to give you a few new tools to consider when you're having one of those days. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE RELATED to this episode: Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm Ep 193: 10 Things To Help with Grief and Loss Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense Ep 57: Is it Anxiety or Intuition Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for Right Now   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My 5 Friendship Philosophies are: Friendship is a TO DO Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend I explain these all in more detail in The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I also encourage the reader (and the listener) to find their own friendship philosophies. Rules to live by that will make your connections stronger and your mental load lighter. This Sunday, sit with these ideas and also come up with your own. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The first story I tell in my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs is called A Friendship Reckoning. In this chapter, I share about a painful conflict with a friend that almost led to the end of our deep friendship, and how we reconciled with one big, meaningful, conversation in my backyard. I chose to keep that friend anonymous in the book, but she revealed herself in an episode my Secret Tapes podcast series and I'm airing it publicly here for the first time. There is so much about this conversation that gets to the heart of what I was trying to convey in The Life Council. We talk about the origin of our friendship, how our friendship styles have changed over the last few years, and, of course, we finally delve into what went wrong that almost led her to ending our friendship, and how we decided to save it together.  The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs was released into the world one year ago this month! I'm celebrating that by sharing this beautiful conversation with my dear friend Patty. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As much as I try to move forward and move on, the body remembers. So instead of pushing it aside, I'm doing a small exercise to honor where we were four years ago this week. This prompt works for any type of event anniversary, birthday, or ending. I remember... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is important for anyone with anxiety or anyone with a loved one who suffers from anxiety. Four years ago, in the earliest days of the Covid-19 pandemic, I stumbled across a video of clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy giving advice on how to manage the increasing anxieties of the lockdown. I asked her to be a guest on the podcast and we then recorded one of the most important conversations of my life. I aired that episode as a BONUS in March of 2020, and decided that I wanted to replay it now as the world continues to feel fraught and uncertain. We could all use Dr. Becky's reminder that anxiety always makes sense. Since we recorded this conversation, Dr. Becky Kennedy has become a household name in the parenting space. She has a podcast, a #1 New York Times best selling book, a Ted Talk, courses and seminars, and an informative and popular Instagram account. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Original BONUS Episode with Dr. Becky at Home: Anxiety Always Makes Sense Ep 18: 10 Thoughts on anxiety (my personal story around mental health) RELATED episodes: Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety Ep. 57: Is It Anxiety or Intuition? Ep. 86: 10 Thoughts on Therapy Ep. 145: Time Anxiety Ep. 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm Ep. 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy Ep. 188: Moms and The Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The whole concept of this show is predicating on TELLING things. But WHO do you tell? It's not always a simple answer. Mentioned in this episode: Joy Cho's reel about sharing your stuff Follow Oh Joy! on IG Ep 13: Who do you tell? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my greatest teachers of the last few years is author, podcaster, and speaker Emily P. Freeman. I have learned so much from her work and devoured her latest NEW YORK TIMES best selling book How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away. Emily says, "Our whole life is like a house, and every commitment, community, role, and relationship is like a room." In this conversation, Emily and I continue her room metaphor and she asks 10 Questions from her book that we can use to discern our own sense of belonging, and our choices to stay or leave. The framework of these 10 questions is perfect for 10 Things To Tell You and I loved unpacking each of these questions and concepts with Emily. Find out more about Emily P. Freeman Buy How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away Listen to The Next Right Thing podcast Read Emily on Substack Follow Emily on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Did I choose this room or did it choose me? What are the corners, sections, people, or parts of this room that I’m avoiding?  What is good and beautiful about this room? Where are the caution flags? Is anyone or anything missing from this room? If so, who or what?  Who has the power in this room?  Who or what will be affected by my decision?  To what extent can I be myself in this room? If God is in this room, what is the action of the divine?  Do I want to stay in this room?    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My daughter Lucy is 14 and has had a cell phone for about a year and a half. My son Finch is 12 and will get his first cell phone in just a few months. While we're in the transitional time as a family, I thought it would be a good time to sit down with them and talk through all the feelings, convenience, and concerns that comes with teen cell phone usage. This conversation surprised me. Both kids said things I'd never heard them say before. I hope that this episode is a fun peek into our family dynamics and also an encouragement to have your own conversations about cell phones and social media. GET THE TEEN CELL PHONE CONTRACT HERE FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 48: Should We Post Our Kids on Social Media? (with Nish Weiseth) Ep. 59: Marry the Person You Can Quarantine With (with Jeff Tremaine) Bonus: 22+ Things Our Family Watched During Quarantine BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From ONE YEAR of the Pandemic Ep. 138: 10 Questions to Ask Your Kids (with Lucy and Finch)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices