Setting Boundaries Is Kindness - EP 982

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Today we talk about setting boundaries and how it is a kindness to do this sooner rather than later. Just in time for holiday gatherings. We will also cover our usual Monday segments. Featured Event: Mastersingers Christmas Concert, Dec 15, 3pm in Cookeville, TN Sponsor 1: DiscountMylarBags.com Sponsor 2: AgoristTaxAdvice.com Livestream Schedule Shifted to afternoons this week because of Gift Coffee Orders Tuesday, 2pm with Ready Riflemen Thursday, 6pm, The Great American Preparedness Tour Live Friday, 2pm, Homestead Happenings with the Tactical Redneck Tales from the Prepper Pantry Half a cow arrived, the whole one will arrive sometime after Christmas Cheated with fresh store veggies this week, because we can 😀 Still need to reorganize the freezers Prepper pantry Redo has stalled and I may see if I can hire someone to help Post road trip easy meal: Burgers, salads from the trip, and a dish from Knighthawk Frugality Tip I have a favorite pair of headphones I use, mostly in the morning when someone else is still sleeping. They are the over the ear kind, not buds. I picked them up to use and the coating on them was peeling, and when I put on my ears it was itchy. I'm not the one to throw them out and buy a new pair. Also I'm not a crochet kinda girl (yet), but there's a crochet solution as well. I cut off the top few inches of an old sock (which I keep as rags , so had a some) Turned it inside out, rolled it down in half and put them over the headphones. And honestly the sound improved as well.  So get crafty to get more use out of the things you have  Main topic of the Show: Setting Boundaries Is KindnessSome weeks, I am not sure what would be the best fit for an LFTN Podcast but today, I had a nice chat with Jenni and she pointed out that lots of people struggle at the holidays with feelings of guilt because they are obligated to see family. Family of the kind that make them uncomfortable or are darn right abusive. So today, we are going to talk about boundaries, setting boundaries, and why it is a kindness. Story 1: The Friend or Employee Who Makes Small Mistakes on a Paid Project, John Willis wanting a different set up at SRF. How to do this kindly: Do it with the correct mindset Do it one on one Be clear on the issue and on the solution to the issue. It is 100% unfair to point out something that needs to be different without clarity on what the steps to making it happen are - even if it is “reflect on the thing and let me know what you plan to do to change it.” Why it is kind to say something sooner rather than later  small correctable things can become big problems over time. Most people are willing to adjust if they know a reasonable adjustment is needed What if the boundary was ignored? Then you know where you stand and can make future decisions sooner. So in general, being clear and setting reasonable boundaries can be very hard because hard conversations need to be had. There are some common ways to make these conversations reasonable. Timing - heat of the moment issue and Upset Ian story Jenni’s way to walk away in the moment My way to walk away in the moment Following up, how to bring it up (Avoid the conversation shanghai TRAP) Clear, kind communication based on what you can control (you), what the issue is (How something they do makes you feel), what you want to see be different, Consequences. (Drunkenness Story). ALENON can be a good place to go for learning about setting boundaries that are hard to set Consistency and follow through - once it is set, stick to your boundary in a kind way Scenario Politics or religious pressure at a family Christmas gathering Unwanted male attention at a party and “being polite” Bad timing for a visit Pull from audience A Hard question for you - what are you doing to invite problems with your boundaries? Bringing up politics or things you know will lead to a reaction (The global warming mug) Swooping in to rescue people who then take advantage of you Other ideas? I don’t know who needs to hear this but it is ok to set boundaries with family. You dont have to go to the thing. You dont have to stay at the thing. You dont have to participate in the white elephant if you cant afford it or just dont want to. You dont have to have the drink. And the same goes for staying – you can just say Im headed home now. Ir “Im leaving. But a caution - I avoid saying “Ive got to go” to get out of a place where people pushed past my boundaries. I dont want them to think I left because of a conflicting obligation. Forgiveness and boundaries. Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce.  Community Follow me on Nostr: npub1u2vu695j5wfnxsxpwpth2jnzwxx5fat7vc63eth07dez9arnrezsdeafsv Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link  

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Today, we talk about the polar plunge in the Holler, Christmas busy season, shoring up the livestock to do well through winter, and more Sponsor 1: DiscountMylarBags.com Sponsor 2: AgoristTaxAdvice.com Hard to work outside because the cold came on suddenly. Heat battery worked for one day – now we need a heater Goat fencing Chickens are gone Feed staging Preparing to be gone – location of sheep Augmenting with creep to give sheep a boost because of the sudden change in temperature Chestnut’s sweater Garlic still not in – need the bed finished Don’t low and slow a round roast - it gets dry AP didnt freeze even though I didnt winterize the wicking beds Chard is still producing under plastic Duck eggs are slow How do you like the rabbit waterers? Time to breed the rabbits again Rabbit tractor is still not done and I am the bottle neck Checking the microclimate near the post for the last of the fall herbs   Make it a great week!   GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce. It makes a great Christmas Gift! Community Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Advisory Board The Booze Whisperer The Tactical Redneck Chef Brett Samantha the Savings Ninja Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link  

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Today, we have our annual brainstorm on gifts we can make from the home or homestead. If things are tight, or even if they aren’t, handmade gifts with lots of love and thought are awesome. Featured Event: Webinar Announcement For December, Christmas Gathering RSVP DEC 21 Sponsor 1: EMP Shield, Coupon Code LFTN Sponsor 2: TheWealthsteadingPodast Livestream Schedule First Tuesday Coffee Chat, 9:30am Tomorrow Friday Homestead Happenings, 9:30am Tales from the Prepper Pantry Freezer reoorganization week Preparing for the SOE Party - food plans from the pantry Still working on the redo of the prepper pantry and it’s cold Thanksgiving Leftover Ideas: Holler Stew and dressing, potato pancakes with cheese Weekly Shopping Report from Joe We took our usual trip on Friday, deciding to risk possible Black Friday traffic, but it wasn't too bad.  As we approached Dollar Tree, we could see that the China-mart lot was packed, but it did not extend as far as the Dollar Tree parking area. Next we split, Sonia going into Hobby Lobby and I into Lowe's.  Both were very busy, but she said she had little wait. Although we did not go into Home Depot, the online price of a 2x4x8 is still $3.85. Aldi was next.  Wet cat food has returned, so I got a couple of 12-can boxes.  Eggs are no longer marked limit 2.  There was very little of even the type of chocolate I normally get, not just the variety I prefer; the shelf area was vacant, although still marked for it.  Staple prices were: bread (20 oz. white): $1.39; eggs: $3.96 (+); whole milk: $3.03; heavy cream: $5.39; OJ: $3.69 (+); butter: $3.99; bacon: $3.99; potatoes: $3.69 (+); sugar: $2.69; flour: $1.79; and 80% lean ground beef: $3.99 (-).  They also had no cantaloupes. A gallon of untainted regular gasoline remains at $3.599. Frugality Tip When you have a gathering and you put things out for drinks like sliced lemons, limes and oranges there are usually leftovers. What I do is put them in the freezer and when I'm going to make tea I'll take out a slice or two in the morning for a hot cup of tea in the afternoon or evening. Alternatively I'll freeze them in ice cube trays and use in iced tea in warmer weather.  So save the citrus and enjoy it later Operation Independence Setting a schedule for classes to be hosted at the Holler Homestead next year. Cheese, for example. Main topic of the Show: Handmade Homestead Gift Ideas Polished and sealed wooden handle for tools (Either make yours in the shop or buy the base handle and do the work) Seeds you have saved with a write up about them Recipe booklet (Printable or printed) THE CHEESECAKE, pair with cookies if that is your jam Jams, Jellies, and chutneys Tallow and Birdseed (careful, this one can get messy) Pot Holders, quilted, with non-plastic fabric. Like for real awesome. Homemade Vanilla (sous vide method, 135 for 4 hours) Tea collections (or herb collections) Pinecone ornament collection, or mason jar lid ones Cure wooden burned or carved signs - especially if it is the person’s homestead or farm name. MeWe reminder Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce.  Community Follow me on Nostr: npub1u2vu695j5wfnxsxpwpth2jnzwxx5fat7vc63eth07dez9arnrezsdeafsv Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link  

  Post Thanksgiving Homestead Happenings. Enjoy! Featured Event: Black Friday Sale at Holler Roast! https://hollerroast.com/ Sponsor 1: TheWealthsteadingPocast.com Sponsor 2: AgoristTaxAdvice.com Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce. It makes a great Christmas Gift! Community Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Advisory Board The Booze Whisperer The Tactical Redneck Chef Brett Samantha the Savings Ninja Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link

Getting ready for the BIG DAY this week?? Amy Dingmann and I talked a bunch about recipe ideas and other country girl things. I think you'll love listening while you get ready for your fun day!  Show Resources A Farmish Kind of Life Living Free in Tennessee Main content of the show Replay of the Tuesday Live on Youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FXi3b79U5eo Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce.  Community Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Advisory Board The Booze Whisperer The Tactical Redneck Chef Brett Samantha the Savings Ninja Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link  

Today I talk about the word of the year, how HONE is going for me, and how to find YOUR word for next year. I also cover all our usual Monday segments. Featured Event: Save the date for the LFTN Christmas Gathering on December 21, 12pm-3pm Sponsor 1: DiscountMylarBags.com Sponsor 2: HollerRoast.com Livestream Schedule 9:30am Friday, Homestead Happenings with the Tactical Redneck Tales from the Prepper Pantry Slow Going on the repairs in there so all “stuff” is going in bins for the winter Still harvesting herbs for drying because the fall has been very mild Holiday Recipe Guide Weekly Shopping Report from Joe We made our usual Friday trip this week. I'm still getting energy drinks at Dollar Tree, so that was first; only a few mind you, as I don't consume nearly as much caffeine now that I am retired.  They seemed pretty busy, with two checkout lines open instead of the usual one. Aldi was next and last.  They had some wet cat food this week, so we grabbed a case (24 cans).  Eggs are still marked limit 2.  There were a couple of price drops.  Staple prices were: bread (20 oz. white): $1.39; eggs: $2.97 (+); whole milk: $3.03; heavy cream: $5.39; OJ: $3.45; butter: $3.99; bacon: $3.99; potatoes: $3.29; sugar: $2.69 (-); flour: $1.79 (-); and 80% lean ground beef: $4.29. I did check the online price of a 2x4x8 at Home Depot, and it is still $3.85. A gallon of untainted regular gasoline remains at $3.599. Frugality Tip Operation Independence Lamb for sale: https://www.livingfreeintennessee.com/product/whole-or-half-lamb-deposit/ Main topic of the Show: Word of th year What is is Why do we do it? (Jenni, Nancy, etc) The only person you can change is you How does it fit with my3things What do you do to find your word? How has Hone gone for 2025 2025 ideas, Jack’s Workshop and that word Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce.  Community Follow me on Nostr: npub1u2vu695j5wfnxsxpwpth2jnzwxx5fat7vc63eth07dez9arnrezsdeafsv Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link  

  Today, we talk about the first REAL cold in the holler, new life, and fencing.  Featured Event: Black Friday Sale at Holler Roast! https://hollerroast.com/ Sponsor 1: TheWealthsteadingPocast.com Sponsor 2: DiscountMylarBags.com Lamb Product Live: https://www.livingfreeintennessee.com/product/whole-or-half-lamb-deposit/ How the goat fence failed while Nicole was away Baby Rabbits It’s cold Perimeter fence is almost complete Second rotation of the rams - faster than we’d like Eggs are returning Jerusalem Artichoke season Inside tomato update Chard patch is doing great Last Pepper Harvest Live shooter in Smithville and the Holler Neighbors Membership Plug Make it a great week! GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce. It makes a great Christmas Gift! Community Mewe Group: https://mewe.com/join/lftn Telegram Group: https://t.me/LFTNGroup Odysee: https://odysee.com/$/invite/@livingfree:b Advisory Board The Booze Whisperer The Tactical Redneck Chef Brett Samantha the Savings Ninja Resources Membership Sign Up Holler Roast Coffee Harvest Right Affiliate Link