261 - BS: Your Happiness is Determined By Your Life Conditions

Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress.  On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm.  This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours. http://recoveredman.com/331

“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting  Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse.  This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours. http://recoveredman.com/330

MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning out. And our training volume over time leads to mastery. This powerful concept can be applied to our recovery. This is part 4 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/329  

When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low. And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same. For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO." But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most. What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills. This is part 3 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/328

“Porn is not the problem for us,” I write in my book. “It’s the solution.” It may feel like the problem in your life that needs to be fixed. But if you’re using porn there is a need that is driving it. It’s a solution. This is part 2 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/327

Author Steve Chandler often says there are two types of people in the world; owners and victims. Victims see themselves as victims of their situation or circumstance. Life happens to them. Owners on the hand while they can't control every situation and circumstance, they control their reaction to any situation. Learning the habits of thinking like an owner is essential to be porn free.  This is part 1 in our new series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/326

Matt Dobschuetz is back with a fresh episode of Porn Free Radio. Sam Dobschuetz joins in-studio to discuss Dobber recently reaching 13 years porn free. Take hope and take action!  https://recoveredman.com/325

“What we call personality,” Steve Chandler writes. “Is just a history of habits.” Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitments that lead to transformation. On this episode, Sam Dobschuetz joins Matt to discuss. https://recoveredman.com/324

Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. https://recoveredman.com/323

I asked a group of coaching clients recently, "what is your weakest link in your recovery?" Answers ranged from objectifying women to old iPads, from social media to working at home alone. Even feelings like rejection and entitlement were part of the mix. On this episode, I'll explain what's behind these weak links and how to eliminate them https://recoveredman.com/322