79. Q&A: Aggression, Separation Anxiety & Ear Shyness

Hey hello hi friends (: We probably all saw this episode coming knowing me, but I genuinely feel this step is in the best interest of the podcast + myself; I've spent a lot of time over the past year really reflecting on what fills my cup + what I'm holding on to that no longer does. This podcast has been a passion project since it began + it has been such an incredible journey for me + I'm so thrilled to have played a role in advocating for more ethical horse training + management. It's truly been one of my greatest accomplishments in my eyes. Now, it feels like that story has been told + the project is mostly complete. It's a weird feeling that's taken me a while to sort out, but I'm doing my best to listen to my head + my heart with this one. All that said, I am 110% keeping the door open for future episodes to fill you guys in on what's going on with the horses + Azula's training. I'd love to pop in here + there, with no pressure or schedule (be a "real ~creative~" lol). So we'll see what happens friends, but for now, I thank each + every one of you for your time + support of this podcast. It means the world 💜 Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/11⁠5 Premium Feed: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Hi friends, this week's ep starts out light covering some updates around my health journey, acne, etc and turned into quite a heavy one covering something I've been avoiding talking about for a while now. I wasn't really sure when I started the episode that I'd ever go there so apologies for the tone shift. Even in the episode I say it happened a few months ago, but only in looking back have I realized it was actually nearly a year ago, December 5th that Hearthrob, Beau, Beaubie passed. Even now, having not seen him in years, and knowing it's been almost a year since his passing, I'm struggling to write this description. So please forgive me if the episode is a bit repetitive or all over the place, I know I didn't say everything I wanted to for Beau, but if I've learned one thing about grief, it's that it doesn't have to make sense. That said, I did want to share something as I know many have loved Beau from afar and cherished him. He reached far and wide and became a lil famous horse. He deserved every ounce of love and support he got from you guys and I just, man, I'm so grateful to have known him. I can't believe it's been almost a year. I wanted to share sooner, but honestly, I couldn't find the words. I'm still not fully sure what to say other than how special he was. Rest easy sweet boy. You're in our hearts forever ❤️ Life with Beau: https://youtu.be/ZXUWqSbu2UA?si=ZDq-5nhX-mqiRMsl Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/11⁠4 Premium Feed: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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This is the second of the premium feed episodes discussing a horse with anxiety about being left behind when his pasture mates leave. Here's the AMA for this episode... Want to hear the full episode? Have a question about horses, training or life you’d like me to cover? Become a premium feed subscriber at ⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com⁠!

Hello friends, this episode is exactly what it seems to be! 25 things I've learned in my time working with horses that I wish I'd known sooner and believe are worth sharing. Enjoy! "they wouldn't do it if they didn't want to" is a myth respect is often conflated / confused with obedience punishment only teaches horses to conceal their worries, fears, pain, discomfort it's not cool or a badge of honor to ride a "hot" horse it's not a disservice to or waste of the horse to not exploit their talent + athleticism regulating bodies do not always safeguard the horse's best interest + welfare tradition is not law + often fails to update with current research there is a difference in giving the horse a treat + training with positive reinforcement release does not equal reward management should be based on ethology + species-appropriate care when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change if you have 5 minutes, it will take all day, but if you have all day, it will take 5 minutes yield to win Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better. many issues in the horse world are reflective of systemic issues mares are not moody softness is not weakness our mental health is reflected in our riding + training think in "what do i want the horse TO DO" instead of what i want the horse to stop doing good riding + training is very boring + looks too easy all behavior has a purpose, look at what need is this behavior meeting rather than why is my horse "xyz" character trait my relationship with my horse is my responsibility if you slow down, you get there faster (successive approximation) treasure my passion + honor it, don't exploit it when you don't respect the "no" you cannot get a real "yes" Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/11⁠3 Premium Feed: ⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Hello friends, this episode is accidentally a more raw and vulnerable one. I start out catching you all up on Zoë + Azula and move into some more serious thoughts on training, mixing reinforcements (don't be scared now), my relationship with social media, and my dilemmas/paralysis when it comes to training and choosing my path. Enjoy! Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/112⁠ Premium Feed: ⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Ok friends! We're on the third + final part of this booktalk series covering The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. This section details about the treatment + recovery discussions in the book, specifically how important our role as an attuned "attachment figure" is in our relationships with our horses - especially those equine friends who are struggling with some traumatic fallout. We'll go in to depth about how some modern psychotherapy approaches might inspire our own treatment interventions with the horses. Enjoy! Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/111 Premium Feed: ⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠ Discord Server: ⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Welcome to the first premium episode (hence P1 for premium episode 1) for subscribers only! This ep covers a horse that is struggling with some separation anxiety and some aggressive behaviors. Here's the AMA for this episode... Want to hear the full episode? Have a question about horses, training or life you’d like me to cover? Become a premium feed subscriber at https://equitheory.supercast.com!

Alright alright alright everyone! We're at part 2 of this booktalk series over The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. This episode covers the 3 avenues to recovery from trauma with the primary focus on developing an understanding of reactivity and problem behavior through the lens of trauma. We're applying the concepts from research on humans to valuable principles to use in our approach to working with horses. Enjoy! Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: https://equitheory.com/episodes/110 Premium Feed: https://equitheory.supercast.com/ Discord Server: https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2 Listener Survey: https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79 Listener Submissions: https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD: http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Welcome to the first iteration of a little series I'd like to start on this podcast! Imagine a book club of sorts where I apply concepts from books I'm reading (horse related or not) to work with horses! So, in this ep, I discuss applying Bessel van der Kolk's "The Body Keeps the Score" to training and working with horses with a bit of a trauma history. This episode is part 1 of this book's episodes as I haven't quite finished all my notes on this one. Look out for part 2! Enjoy! Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/109 See other human-related books I recommend: ⁠https://www.equitheory.com/human Premium Feed: ⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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Hallo hallo! Ready to talk... emo? ...tions? This episode discusses managing our emotions around horses, balancing school, work, and horses, and allowing yourself the permission to live yer life. Plus some bonus explanation of what I've done to combat insomnia in the past (: Enjoy! Show Notes + Episode's Page on EquiTheory.com: ⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.com/episodes/108 Premium Feed: ⁠⁠⁠https://equitheory.supercast.com/⁠⁠⁠ Discord Server: ⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/w3Beu8aff2⁠⁠⁠ Listener Survey: ⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/UPetxzw5HuVHRuz79⁠⁠⁠ Listener Submissions: ⁠⁠⁠https://forms.gle/Gu2G4fHPQGrt3USR8⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/equitheory/⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@EquiTheory⁠⁠⁠ EquiTheory Podcast — Hosted by Jill Treece of JETEquiTheory Disclaimer: This content is for educational, informational + entertainment purposes only, not professional consultation. While we take precautions and fact-check, topics discussed should be considered opinions and listeners should practice due diligence before taking any action. If you participate (by commenting, submitting a question, or reviewing), understand it is at your own risk, accept full responsibility for any resulting liability/harm, & anything written may be used for discussion. Music by LiQWYD:  ⁠⁠⁠http://www.soundcloud.com/liqwyd
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