Unburdening: From Savior to Steward
I’m testing Wednesday Wisdom as a series of thought meditations to calm the mind from various angles to focus on presence and breath. If you enjoy this series let me know in the comments below. You can also now book a support session with me if you need more.I’ve been uncovering a Saviorism within myself. I need to prove myself disguised as confident and all-knowing of what people need to be doing with their lives. Lately, I’ve seen that this is an abrasive attempt to prove my value as a human by overdoing, overstepping, and forcing others who aren’t prepared to grow into a growth path, which usually only halts their natural growth. Forcing extra water on a plant because it needs to grow faster will only drown it. So, I’m learning to back off, not force my contribution, and put emphasis on both acceptance of presence with everything being perfect as it is and to also support the expansion of the light of human consciousness with my work as a garden to tend to as opposed to a belief to peddle. In my own exploration and self-discovery, I've come to realize that the role I envisioned for myself—as the omnipotent savior of everyone around me—may not be the path meant for me. Instead, what has emerged from my reflections and meditations is a deeper understanding that my true role is more akin to a humble steward or guide, not just for others, but for my own journey as well.This journey began with a well-intentioned desire to fix, save, and uplift every soul I encountered. I saw myself as the architect of change, the only one who held the wisdom to guide those lost back to shore. This mindset, noble in its aim, often led me to overextend, to overstep, and, paradoxically, to stunt the very growth I aimed to foster in others.Through my meditation, I've come to see that the essence of my contribution is not found in grandiose acts of salvation but in the quiet, steady support and acceptance of each person's unique path. Like a gardener tending to their plot, I've learned the importance of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace, understanding that each requires different amounts of sunlight, water, and care. This realization has shown me the beauty of stepping back, of supporting rather than forcing growth.Transitioning from a savior to a steward or coach has been liberating. It has allowed me to shed the burdens of proving my worth through the act of saving and to embrace a more sustainable, fulfilling way of contributing to the world. By focusing on my own growth and self-discovery, I inadvertently create a space where others feel empowered to explore, grow, and shine in their own right.The mantra I shared, "You don't need to save the world. You do not need to save anyone. You do not need to do anything to prove your worth," is a powerful affirmation that has guided me through this transition. It's a reminder to embrace my inherent worth, understanding that my value does not depend on my ability to rescue others but on my capacity to love, support, and be present with them on their journey.This path of unburdening has underscored the importance of being my own savior, healer, and coach. By setting boundaries, honoring my needs, and nurturing my growth, I lay the groundwork for genuine, impactful contributions to the lives of those around me. It's in this space of self-love and acceptance that I can truly contribute from a place of abundance rather than obligation.As I navigate the complexities of life, I hold onto the essence of my meditation: my role is not to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders but to walk alongside others, sharing the load, offering support, and celebrating the unique journey each of us is on. In doing so, I not only enrich my own life but also contribute to a world where growth, acceptance, and presence are valued above all else. This shift from savior to steward, from fixer to supporter, is not just a personal evolution but a testament to the power of presence, acceptance, and the nurturing of each individual's unique path to growth.If you enjoyed this meditation then you may enjoy The Wisdom of the 3 Centers, a series of prompts for the head, heart, and gut to unlock inner wisdom from each center. Share this post if it was helpful for you and share any insights that have come to you in the comments below! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dopeamine.substack.com/subscribe
